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Holding Back On Facebook. . .

I thought it might be a good idea to talk about Facebook & why I've decided to think about how much I'm telling people before posting. When I am in pain or suffering due to my health I tend to take to Facebook to vent and express my annoyance, this is mainly because when I'm in that frame of mind I think it's unfair that I should keep quiet about my sufferings while others are happily enjoying their lives pain free. But, lately I've become aware of how this could be coming across, I don't want to be seen as an attention seeking moaning minnie! As that's what I sometimes think when I see people constantly discussing their troubles on social media. I'm more than certain that I'll still be updating my status with a moan every so often, or sharing something that relates to my issues, but I'm becoming aware of the difference between sharing and over sharing!

There's also another reason for my decision to hold back on Facebook though.. When someone on my "Friends" list recently started claiming they had the same health problems as me I knew they was lying, I also knew this wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for my over sharing posts! By saying too much about my troubles, I had been unknowingly giving them exactly what they needed..Information! It opened my eyes to what certain "Friends" are really doing..Spying on my page waiting for my next confession, with the full intention of repeating my story as their own. The difference is though, mine isn't a fantasy! Like I've already said, I'm still going to write/share what I want when I feel like it, I'll just be more mindful of how much I'm giving away.   X


  1. i've worried about this before, even contemplated copy righting pictures just incase people want to steal or claim we've faked them. had someone once said did we photoshop a picture of my daughter doing a "party trick" .. no we didn't and no i don't let her do it. its hard when you want to share but worry what people will say.

    1. I worry a lot about how my posts are coming across, I don't want to be seen as someone who spills her problems all over social media for sympathy. It's not like that at all though, it's more about getting my true feelings off my chest. But also you have to be careful of who your sharing it with. x


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